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Meaning of the Hadith which says that a lady must seek permission from her husband for going out
(He is a new convert to Islam, from the Netherlands)
Ibn Umar reports from the Prophet that once a lady came to the Prophet and asked him about the rights of a husband on his wife. He replied: she should not leave his house without his permission. (Sunan Bayhaqi, No: 14490)
A particular ruling must be understood in the context of general rulings. Islam requires that the wife adopt an attitude of adjustment and harmony with the husband and the husband is required to be affectionate and accommodating as far as possible to the needs of his wife. He must not impose any undue restrictions on her for this will ignite the wrath of God upon him.
With regard to a wife seeking her husbands permission before leaving the house, the proper perspective must be understood. In general circumstances of mutual trust, there is no need for a wife to ask permission from her husband to go out (see: The Guiding Helper,song 38, marriage, page 307). However, in certain circumstances in which the husband genuinely considers that going out might disrupt the family in any way, he has the authority to exercise his right of stopping her and in these circumstances, she should always ask permission to leave the house. In this regard, the husband must remember that if he imposes himself without any sound and justifiable reason, he would be crossing the bounds and invoking the displeasure of the Almighty. His wrong behavior may even lead the wife to abandon him for which he would be solely responsible (see tafsir Ibn kathir An-nisa 19)
We would also note here that any decent (real Muslim!) husband will give his wife general permission to leave the house during times of general safety ,because Allah swt says:
O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, (regaring the issue that woman have to ask permission to their husbands for leaving the house, the husband must remember that if he imposes himself without any sound and justifiable reason, he would be crossing the bounds and invoking the displeasure of the Almighty,because he is not allowed to treat his wive with harsh unjust rulings by abusing his rights)that ye may take away part of the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good (Quran An-nisa 19)
A just/fair muslim husband will give his wive general permission to leave the house since Allah swt commands us to be just and fair in many Quranic verses
"Allah commands justice, the doing Of good, and liberality to kith And kin, and He forbids All shameful deeds, and injustice And rebellion: He instructs you, That ye may receive admonition. (The Noble Quran, 16:90)"
"O ye who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah, as witnesses to fair dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to Piety: and fear Allah. For Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do." [Quran ,Al-Maidah 5:8]
Any husband who keeps his wife locked up in a restricted room or place of residence especially in his absence (such that the place of residence feels like a jail to the wife) has transgressed the proper manners of a friendly marriage in our din , and Allahs command Nor should ye treat them with harshness (An-nisa 19) .Such women in such extreme undesirable situations may take recourse to the local judge or local Muslim religious leader (if no judge has been appointed) to try to remedy the situation.
Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi in one of his fatwas regarding women issues further states:
Islam does not require, as some people claim, that a woman should remain confined to her house until death takes her out to her grave. On the contrary, she may go out for prayer, for her studies, and for her other lawful needs, both religious and secular, as was customary among the women of the families of the Companions and the women of later generations. Moreover, this early period of Islam is considered by all Muslims (Isaiah 56:5: Muslim is the future believers' name. Sons and daughters titles will be "no more") to be the best and most exemplary period in the history of Islam. Among the women of this time were those who took part in battles in the company of the Prophet himself (peace and blessings be upon him), and after that under the caliphs and their commanders. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) told his wife Sawdah, Allah has permitted you to go out for your needs. (Reported by al-Bukhari) He also said, If someones wife asks his permission to go to the mosque, he should not deny it to her. (Reported by al-Bukhari) On another occasion he said, Do not prevent the bond-maids of Allah from (going to) Allahs mosques. (Reported by Muslim.)
(fatwa by Sheikh Yusuf al Qaradawi at www.islamonline.com)
So we clearly see that no muslim husband has the right to deny his wife acces to the mosque.
Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Do not deprive women of their share of the mosques, when they seek permission from you. Bilal said: By Allah, we would certainly prevent them. 'Abdullah said: I say that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said it and you say: We would certainly prevent them! (Sahih Muslim Book 004, Number 0891)
Further a husband is also obligated to grant his wife permission for leaving the house in case of seeking knowledge:
(There is no doubt that seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim, as has been authentically reported from Al-Mustafa)
Prophet Muhammad (P) said, "Seeking knowledge is mandatory for every Muslim.'' (Narrated in Al-Bayhaqi and Ibn-Majah, quoted in M.S. Afifi, Al-Mar'ah Wa Huququha Fil-Islam (in Arabic), Maktabat Al-Nahdhah, Cairo, Egypt, 1988, p. 71.)
Ibn al hajj said, If a woman demands her right to religious education from her husband and brings the issue to a judge, she is justified in demanding this right. It is her right that either her husband should teach her or allow her to go elsewhere to acquire education in Islam. The judge must compel the husband to fulfill her demand in the same way that he would in the matter of her worldly rights since her right in matters of religion are most essential and important. (al mudkhal vol.2 p 277)
Finally i would like to point out that the prophet (saw) was always just and fair in dealing with his wives, he allowed them to leave the house when they asked him for permission. The prophet (saw) is the best example that every muslim must follow!
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) told his wife Sawdah, Allah has permitted you to go out for your needs. (Reported by al-Bukhari, Book 026, Number 5395)
(A sister whom i know asked Molana Emraan Vawda (mufi from Ask-imam) about this hadith, he confirmed that she can go out if it is necessary for her , and he said: that needs will be interpretated by ones own self. what may be one persons needs may not be anothers. )
Verily in the messenger of Allah ye have a good example for him who looketh unto Allah and the last Day, and remembereth Allah much (Qurán 33:21).
The ignorent husband who wants to isolate his wife from society (by always unjust forbidding her to leave the house) must know that the general social system of Islam is based on the full participation of men and women in everyday life with piety and chastity. Indeed, segregation and isolation (by preventing your wife from leaving the house) may well protect a wife from temptation, but it essentially denies her the benefits of the communal life of Muslims (Isaiah 56:5: Muslim is the future believers' name. Sons and daughters titles will be "no more") (further unjust isolating your wife from society breaks the commandments of Allah swt to be just and fair, and dealing with your women on a footing of kindness and equity ). Secondly It denies and abrogates her legitimate role in the social process of cooperation in the promotion of knowledge and good work, in the mutual counselling of Muslims (Isaiah 56:5: Muslim is the future believers' name. Sons and daughters titles will be "no more") to do all that is beneficial and avoid all that is objectionable, in their solidarity for the maintenance of their well-being and the defence of their establishment. Allah swt says,
"The believing men and women, are associates and helpers of each other. They (collaborate) to promote all that is beneficial and discourage all that is evil; to establish prayers and give alms, and to obey God and his Messenger. Those are the people whom God would grant mercy. Indeed God is Mighty and Wise". (Al-Taubah, 71)
In his last sermon the prophet commanded Muslims (Isaiah 56:5: Muslim is the future believers' name. Sons and daughters titles will be "no more") to treat others justly (a husband in islam is therefore obligated to treat his wife in a just and fair manner ):
O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust. Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners. Treat others justly so that no one would be unjust to you.
O People, it is true that you have certain rights over your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers
(Hafiz Ibn Hibban reported in al-Sahih (11/203/#4862) via his isnad, from Fadalah ibn `Ubayd (Allah be pleased with him)
Hafiz Ibn Hibban authenticated it by including it in his al-Sahih. Shu`ayb al-Arna'ut said in his comments that its isnad is sahih
Fatwa by Ibn Qudama al-Maqdasi, al-Mughni, Kitab al-Walimah, Mas'alah Qasm al-Ibtida' at http://www.guidinghelper.com/qna/marriage.html :
We would also note here that any decent husband will give his wife general permission to leave the house during the daytime during times of general safety for short intervals. Any husband who keeps his wife locked up in a restricted room or place of residence especially in his absence (such that the place of residence feels like a jail to the wife) has transgressed the proper manners of a friendly marriage in our din (=faith/islam). Such women in such extreme undesirable situations may take recourse to the local judge or local Muslim religious leader (if no judge has been appointed) to try to remedy the situation.]
Further regarding this issue, it is also stated by the classical scholars of the famous book The Guiding helper (based on the figh/law of one of Islams greatest Imams , Imam Malik) that:
If the husband is verbally or physically abusing his wife, then she can leave the house (she can stay at her familys or friends house) and refuse to come back in (The Guiding Helper , page 307, note 2321, song 38:1490)
In other words, the husband who verbally or physically abuses his wife (in Islam it is absolutely unlawful for the husband to violently hit or verbally abuse/ hurt his wife, see the guiding helper page 308 ), looses his right to give her permission for leaving the house. Off course in such situation islam gives women the right to divorce from their husband: (see: http://www.mwlusa.org/publications/positionpapers/divorce.html )
http://www.guidinghelper.com(a guidebook for life, taken from the work of Multiple scholars, based on the figh of one of Islams greatest Imams ever, Imam Malik)
http://www.tafsir.com (Ibn kathirs tafsir)
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