Peace be upon you,
The marriage process of the majority of Muslims in Lebanon, Egypt, Pakistan, and India does not comply with Islamic Sharia’h and therefore God does not accept it.
God commanded a Muslim man in Quran to marry one of his believing maids whom he possesses if he can’t afford to marry a free-believing woman. This means that marrying a free-believing woman is more expensive than a slave-believing woman. However, there are no slaves anymore because Islam came to abolish slavery and equalize between people.
• Quran (4:25) If any of you cannot afford to marry a free believing woman let him marry one of his believing maids whom he possesses. God best knows your faith. You are one of another. So marry them with their owners permission, and give them their dower according to what is fair…
But God commanded two conditions for the marriage to be valid and acceptable. The first condition is that we must have consent from the parents (guardians), and the second condition is that we must pay their dowry in a reasonable manner. This means that the man is responsible for all expenses.
However, the majority of Muslims in Lebanon, Egypt, Pakistan, and India give the bride a necklace and a ring as a dowry and force her to buy some furniture and clothes and to pay for the cost of the party. In this case, the marriage is invalid and the relationship of the husband and wife is one of adultery, and their children are children of adultery.
The excuse of those who practice this doctrine is that in Islam there is a so-called necessity such as during hardship, it’s permissible to modify God’s law. For example, if you have to eat pork or you die, then it is permissible to eat pork. Thus, a Muslim man today has difficulty bearing all the expenses of the marriage alone, in this case, it is permissible for him to share some of the expenses with the wife.
But they are ignorant that God said in the Quran that a man should refrain from marriage until God enriches him from His bounty. This means that a man is not allowed to ask his wife to help him. If a man is not able to afford all the expenses of marriage, he is not allowed to marry and has to wait until he is capable.
• Quran (24:33) But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty…
Prophet Mohamed (PBUH) commanded a man to fast if he couldn’t afford the expenses of marriage. The Prophet did not command the man to ask alimony from the wife.
• Prophet Mohamed (PBUH) said, O young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it (marriage) controls the gaze and preserves one from immorality. And whoever cannot (marry) should fast, for it is a means of reducing the sexual desire.
God said in Quran that it is not permissible for anyone to modify what God and His prophet have decided in a matter, and whoever does, then has strayed into clear error.
• Quran (33:36) It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.
Please send this post to all your friends in these countries because Prophet Mohamed (PBUH) said whosoever of you sees an evil must change it.
• Prophet Mohamed (PBUH) said: “Whosoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of faith.”
Regards,
