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In Islam / Re: Allah blesses women
« on: September 28, 2012, 04:51:26 AM »Please explain how a man can feel "bullied" by a woman's appearance.
When you get repeatedly turned-on, without being able to succumb to this temptation. It is a torture. It is Tantalus's punishment.
You can exercise self-control on moderate levels of temptation, but beyond some point, it becomes impossible. You cannot build a society by repressing desire. This energy has to flow somewhere. It is better to channel this energy in constructive ways, instead of desperately trying to suppress it with harsh and violent laws (or inner codes of conduct). What did they achieve with this brutal method? In my opinion, just frustration and unhappiness.
In most non-Muslim countries (in the West and elsewhere), they do not need these repressive laws. They distinguish between harrassment and legitimate courtship. In those countries, women have the right to attract men with provocative dress, and they enjoy being respectfully (but confidently) approached and complimented. They also have the right to decline sollicitations (more or less politely) from unwanted approaches, and rejected men silently move on to the next. And life goes on for everyone.
There are many problems associated with this more liberal way of life, but in practice, Muslim societies have certainly not found the solution to them.